A slightly different but closely related subject to steelmanning, worth a read
Have you had a disagreement with anyone recently? Did you feel that all participants were understood by one another? Here’s a test: Could your opponent(s) state your position in a way that you would be satisfied with how they describe it? Could you do the same for your opponent(s)? If the answer to either of those is a flat “no,” you are like most normal people having these conversations. I’ve had conversations over social media lasting weeks where I never once felt that my interlocutor wanted to understand where I was coming from. I’ve heard this referred to as “talking past one another” and it’s impeding conversations at every turn.
There are two basic facts that were very, very hard for me to recognize (and I still need to remind myself of them today). Here they are:
1. People have different positions than you do.
2. People think they have good…
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